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Please Don't Promise Me Forever

Please Don't Promise Me Forever

Imagine this: It’s 1976 and you’re dating a man named Rick. He has a mustache and owns at least one reindeer sweater. High off of reading The Easter Parade and The Great Santini, he’s all pumped up to write the next great American novel but, to make ends meet, he’s currently working for Hallmark. He’s been really cagey about his latest project, only revealing that this will be the first time Hermann Zapf‘s Crown font is used in a publication.

The fact is, things could be better between the two of you; he forgot your birthday… then your anniversary. Then there was that time he bit your head off on the car ride home for making fun of him during a game of Monopoly at a friend’s house.

Now, imagine it’s Valentine’s Day and you’re not expecting much – but Rick surprises you. It turns out that book he was working on – it’s all about you! And your relationship! Your eyes well up with tears of joy. Then, as you skim through, they become tears of something else. You discover that the book is full of lines like this: “Please don’t get mad at me if I forget your birthday or some special day we share.”

And this: “Please don’t expect me to always be good and kind and loving. There are times when I will be cold and thoughtless and hard to understand.”

And there’s even a photo depicting couples board game night paired with this text: “Please don’t… make me look foolish in front of other people.”

I spotted this amazing treasure at Spoonbill and Sugartown and, of course, I had to buy it right away. Aside from the prose, the photographs are priceless – but even more priceless are the hand written annotations and underlined passages in my copy, beseeching the reader to re-read certain lines. It’s out of print (as you might have imagined) but, as your faithful friend, I’ve digitally preserved this amazing book; every magical page can be viewed after the jump.

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Posted by: Brittany on June 30th, 2009 | Tagged with: , , , | Comments (229)
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229 Comments

  • Ashleigh
    8:45 am on
    July 2, 2009

    Wow, this is a show-stopper!

     


  • Jim
    11:03 am on
    July 4, 2009

    It’s an amazing relationship strategy: by letting her point out that he’s forgotten her birthday and anniversary and accusing him of insensitivity, he turns the fight around and re-frames it by patiently explaining that all their days are special, which implies that she’s the insensitive one who cares less about their relationship.

     


  • Danny
    2:25 pm on
    July 6, 2009

    Only an insensitive clod remembers birthdays and anniversaries. It’s the forgetting that shows the depth of your love.

     


  • Ashleigh
    9:50 am on
    July 7, 2009

    You know what else? Crown is actually kind of an awkward typeface. Way to go Zapf!

     


  • bill
    9:47 pm on
    July 8, 2009

    i can’t believe i actually read this piece of… well, you know :P

     


  • tabs
    8:04 am on
    July 9, 2009

    There is a particular irony when it is a HALLMARK product points out that adhering to the social mores of remembering special days should be abhorrent.

     


  • Lisa
    2:59 pm on
    July 9, 2009

    Love it!

     


  • thegnu
    7:26 pm on
    July 9, 2009

    seriously, though, forgetting a birthday is not a big deal. i’ve forgotten my own birthday. pretty much any reason to be resentful of someone you’ve decided to live with for the rest of your life is pretty pointless.

     


  • Tanya Elliot
    7:55 pm on
    July 9, 2009

    Sweaters like that are few and far between. Just like the dickhead who is weaing it.

     


  • Keven
    7:58 pm on
    July 9, 2009

    Thank u for making it all the reasons I love my wife Jen

     


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    8:23 pm on
    July 9, 2009

    Muito Bom!
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  • Bob Gum
    9:39 pm on
    July 9, 2009

    I wish I would have said all of this to my wife of 46 years before she died 3 months ago. It would have made her passing a lot easier for me. I miss her terribly every day.

     


  • Mike
    10:12 pm on
    July 9, 2009

    I fail to understand why so many of you think this guy is a douche. He’s being honest about what we ALL are. None of us is perfect all the time. We will not remember EVERY single date. We will not always be peachy and kind. We ALL have our moment and this guy is just trying to say that even though he’s human, he will always love her. How do you dummies NOT see that?

     


  • Bob Fry
    11:22 pm on
    July 9, 2009

    Hey, I wanna buy slacks and a vest like Rick has…

     


  • Jay
    12:11 am on
    July 10, 2009

    Well done for the seventies. Clothes were a bit weird then, but hey in thirty years, our style will look just as shabby. This is a nice thing to share with a loved one. It sums up how I feel about my wife.

     


  • Prakash Dodeja
    1:11 am on
    July 10, 2009

    Excellent write up, simple but effective emotions and superb picture selection. Hats off

     


  • robb
    5:09 am on
    July 10, 2009

    beautiful set of pics there.
    70′s theme is always beautiful.

     


  • Peter
    9:06 am on
    July 10, 2009

    My advice is that, if you are in a relationship with this man, move on – as quickly as you can. He lives in a world which is there only to serve him. You might as well not exist. He is narcissistic, intoxicated with himself, and he is completely incapable of recognising your own individual existence.

     


  • Rida Khan
    9:11 pm on
    July 10, 2009

    I can’t believe he sounds so much more like my husband. and I always knew that he loves me …………….:))- my hubby stumble it and showed to me…. ;) i just loved it.

     


  • Tim
    5:29 am on
    July 11, 2009

    Yes, it was the Seventies, and their clothes looked a bit weird, but at least they were able to keep their pants pulled up.

     


  • Sam Dz.
    12:36 pm on
    July 11, 2009

    I can’t help but feel that some of those things can actually lead to an unhealthy relationship, such as the “dont make me look foolish in front of other people”… Wow, take a joke ya wimp!

     


  • Josie
    10:40 pm on
    July 11, 2009

    I think that this is beautiful

     


  • Elena
    10:45 pm on
    July 11, 2009

    Tim… you made me laugh out loud.

     


  • me
    11:21 pm on
    July 11, 2009

    this was supposed to be funny! people…

     


  • Your Name
    11:21 pm on
    July 11, 2009

    wow!! loved it…i think more couples need to see this, to remember its more about the day to day love than the big extravang things.

     


  • Jessie
    12:05 am on
    July 12, 2009

    As a girl, I found this oddly touching and sweet. Especially when sent by my boyfriend — it says a lot, and explains a specific perspective on love. Like trying to find the good in love, rather than all that’s imperfect. “Please don’t ever give me too much of yourself or take too much of me. In our togetherness we still need our private places.” — also applicable to many relationships, I think. Sweet enough book to overlook the 70s vibe.

     


  • stewart
    1:13 am on
    July 12, 2009

    The Stepford woman is the woman for me.

     


  • anon
    1:23 am on
    July 12, 2009

    this reminds me of how I should see my own relationship too =D thanks for posting this. =D

     


  • Stephen
    1:48 am on
    July 12, 2009

    This guy is the centre of his universe.

     


  • Paula
    5:06 am on
    July 12, 2009

    this was awe inspirting..but hey don’t forget my b’day and anniversary.

     


  • Cody
    5:10 am on
    July 12, 2009

    I think this stuff is good. I would change a couple of phrases as I don’t see some things the way he sees it, but in overall it’s just can be a great gift for your beloved one (just make another set of pictures of me and her ;) ) That’s what I’m going to do :)

     


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  • Linda
    1:10 pm on
    July 12, 2009

    Perhaps today is not the day I should comment on this, but here I am. I think this sappy little book portrays the attitude of a person who is simply taking advantage of the emotions and kindness of the other person. I agree with what Peter wrote, “if you are in a relationship with this man, move on – as quickly as you can. He lives in a world which is there only to serve him.” What surprises me is that so many who commented here LIKED the book. Well, to each his own. “There will be times when I will be cold and thoughtless and hard to understand…” but deal with it lady, we can enjoy another nice day in the park tomorrow — but don’t for a minute think I intend to do this forever. Um… yeah. Enjoy your strange relationship.

     


  • eClaironess
    2:17 pm on
    July 12, 2009

    Someone who does not remember special days may think that no day is special as well.

    While I don’t want someone to promises me forever–promises, promises, as we know promises can be broken–, I want someone who can do forever, and with that in mind, some of the tips in the book are on target, particularly about sharing and growth.

     


  • Ginger
    3:10 pm on
    July 12, 2009

    I’m with Peter on this one… I turned down a guy who could “only promise today.”

    Truly, life with this generous man would be about receiving. Receiving all the normal blessings of life and love… “stringing together” the days on lines of cliches… until maybe ten years had passed. Crows feet, perhaps a kid or two, and at least ten extra pounds from annual ice cream binges coinciding with ones not-so-special anniversaries and birthdays. And then, someday, to receive herpes after he decided to give yesterday to some local hussy.

    Life is really all about the superficial feelings of love. I mean, commitment is hard – let’s just stick to reveling in our sartorial awesomeness.

    The joke is on him though. That ‘stache won’t be so lush and dark forever! Mwah-ha-ha!

     


  • Martin Lewis
    4:29 pm on
    July 12, 2009

    Please turn this into a 3 hour film epic.

     


  • Jimbo
    6:19 pm on
    July 12, 2009

    It’s seems obvious that he’s an only son or come from a broken family…

    Who said that only the “Y” generation is spoilt and uncaring.
    These are the guys you see on the park bench as they age.

    Lonely and miserable…

     


  • Neil
    8:29 pm on
    July 12, 2009

    Wow, you guys bashing the boyfriend-writer-guy are in a pathetic state of self-denial. You seem to think that you’re some kind of hot **** to be able to dump on this guy for having the stones to be honest. Or maybe you’re so emotionally and intellectually simple that you only exist in one state at all times and are incapable of complex thought, feeling, or action.
    This guy obviously cared enough about his girl to put his weaknesses out there for anyone to see. It takes a lot to stick your neck out there like that.
    Not that you ***holes are capable of understanding that.

     


  • Mike
    8:59 pm on
    July 12, 2009

    Anyone who is writing something bad about this book is clearly not reading it correctly. He is not trying to be a jerk. He is simply saying that just because I am human and make mistakes, please don’t hold it against me. He even says that he wants to be told off if he is out of line. This is a book about how a relationship should work. Everyone has a bad day and takes it out on the wrong person from time to time but just because I make a flip comment on accident does not mean it should end the relationship. This is the point that the talking about the problem and fixing it comes into play. Jeez people…stop being so cynical.

     


  • Thomo
    9:12 pm on
    July 12, 2009

    Please don’t judge the author for what he has to say. He only wrote this book for today and can’t promise that he will still agree with it all tomorrow! In Australia we had a similar ad for Cougar Bourbon. Similar looking guy with similar sentiments. Here’s the youtube link http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=x9STuU0iqe4&feature=PlayList&p=646367D5D2A324A8&index=1

     


  • -K-
    1:31 am on
    July 13, 2009

    although reading “i can only promise today” makes me afraid of losing my bf to another… deeper down I feel I shouldn’t cling so tightly just because we’re a couple.
    I want to change. I’m sick of being obsessive and clingy. and jealous.
    i will force myself to accept fate, and try to make it good.

     


  • Jonck
    4:13 pm on
    July 13, 2009

    I think that people automatically try to find all the negative in something. Nothing anyone has ever written will be perfect. Take what good you can from it and ignore what you don’t think works. When he says that there are day when he will be cold and hard to understand keep in mind that there may be days when she will be the same way. The same way with his view on giving and taking applies to him taking and giving in relation to her.

    To those who try to find the negative in this… Life can be long or short but you should always try to look on the bright side because happiness is what we all strive to find in life. If you live your life however long or short it may be, looking at the negative side of everything you’ll probably regret it in the end.

     


  • Ricky
    5:50 pm on
    July 13, 2009

    This could be so so true but thir will alway’s be something to,————.,

     


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  • Gavy baby
    9:29 pm on
    July 13, 2009

    I honestly believe this is written by Ron Burgundy

     


  • Little Timmy
    10:05 pm on
    July 13, 2009

    so special I’m gonna puke

     


  • vince in tokyo
    10:22 pm on
    July 13, 2009

    This was a “design” book of the times people! It was designed and set by Zapf! Unfortunately, as a result my esteem of the beloved type-master may have gone down a notch or two although I expect he didn’t write it . . . what a way to promote a typeface . . .

    The 70′s were such a weird time . . .

     


  • AdmiralJesus
    10:34 pm on
    July 13, 2009

    I’m sure she knows Bob Gum, and i’m sorry

     


  • sue cyr
    10:42 pm on
    July 13, 2009

    I always remember an anniversary. men need some help though, so I thought that the next time I get married it will be on a holiday like Christmas when everyone has the day off and they remember,

     


  • Lisa
    11:07 pm on
    July 13, 2009

    I found this really cute. He wrote her something that wasn’t a cookie cutter valentine’s day cliché, but something true and honest about the realistic workings of a relationship. He’s telling her that we’re all human and will have our off days, but that doesn’t mean he doesn’t love her.

    and he’s saying that instead of focusing on the bigger picture all the time to focus on the actual picture – here and now. Just focus on loving every day you have together for what it is instead of worrying about what it will be.

    Everyone who is looking at this negatively is missing the beauty it was intended to be.

     


  • Jimbob
    11:10 am on
    July 14, 2009

    If I forgot my wedding anniversary I’d be in trouble. Luckily it just happens to be on my birthday. I can’t help but think my wife engineered it that way.

     


  • Scarlett_156
    2:37 pm on
    July 14, 2009

    Not to pass personal judgment on the (really strange) guy that produced this–I totally agree that this represents quite a find! It reminds me of some of the stuff I ran across during the five years I worked for the Public Library system in Denver. There are so many vanity press type books that end up in people’s collections, most of them are pretty awful as far as writing and, you know, the philosophy expressed in them and stuff, but they are usually really interesting–even the simply awful ones–because this is someone we obviously don’t notice much or think much about in our day-to-day lives if we know him or know someone like him. To be able to see what goes on in the head of a person like this, and what he considers to be a great romantic present for his lady friend–possibly a make-up type of gift for forgetting her birthday or whatever–that’s pretty cool. New favorite website! :)

     


  • Jim
    2:58 pm on
    July 14, 2009

    Thanks, Scarlett_156!

    I can’t imagine the kind of obscure one-offs you came across deep in the heart of the Denver public library system! It’s mind-watering just to consider it…

    We’re all so psyched you like the site and — should you ever forget an SO’s b-day — just remember to ask yourself one question: WWRD, What Would Rick Do?

     


  • Tracy
    4:33 pm on
    July 14, 2009

    OK, so, first of all, the set-up for this story is just that – a set-up! (Right, you guys?) There is no author credited; Rick was the photographer! Hallmark used to have scores of these books on the market, penned by anonymous employees of theirs, aimed at appealing to every corporately imaginable customer. They’re each and all a load of crap, until YOU personally buy one or recieve it as a gift. Now, personally, I would never direct such sentiment toward anyone with whom I meant to have a 1:1 intimate relationship. It’s all about what the relationship isn’t and will never be… “please don’t, don’t, don’t” … very polite, very negative… and if I recieved it, I’d be taking Peter’s advice… and if I weren’t finished with that kind of relationship, having completely given up on meeting a man who thinks like Peter, I’d be asking for his phone number… =)

     


  • Fet
    4:37 pm on
    July 14, 2009

    What the f***?

     


  • RJF
    7:10 pm on
    July 14, 2009

    A wonderful shrine to mediocrity, solipsism and freeloading. Makes me shudder to think that people actually believed that it was their perogative to tell their wives what to think feel and do in the marriage. I guess the lack of bedroom activity was made up for by all the mindf***ing. I find the images and sentiments, gruesome reminders of the 70′s. May they never return.

     


  • AMF
    8:33 pm on
    July 14, 2009

    Bleh! Mixed feelings about this >_<

     


  • SOOPI
    9:14 pm on
    July 14, 2009

    I agree with Peter (July 10). That 60′s attitude about what women may or may not think is insulting today. I wonder how most of you would react if it was a woman who wrote that horse shit.

     


  • fred
    1:06 am on
    July 15, 2009

    I was waiting for the joke about getting some anal

     


  • Kim
    2:55 am on
    July 15, 2009

    July 9th 7;55pm 2009. Tanya Elliot I like your style.

     


  • Faeryn
    3:30 am on
    July 15, 2009

    This one’s heading straight to Divorce Court. This poor dumb bastard is about to make all the wrong moves and she’s going to dump his ass by May of ’77 and live on food-stamps until October of ’82 working 3 jobs under the table and raising their bastard son, who feels so abandoned he becomes a monster of some kind.
    Hallmark sucks.
    No one should speak for another human, or be so unaccountable that they can’t sustain a relationship that’s truthful with them selves, let alone a mate.
    Bad times.

     


  • G0utham
    8:53 am on
    July 15, 2009

    well …. Thats awesome man… The words are really great :)

     


  • maxim
    3:16 pm on
    July 15, 2009

    for some reason I though it was a woman let her man know how to love.

     


  • maxim
    3:19 pm on
    July 15, 2009

    it should be a chick saying this to her man.

     


  • maxim
    3:20 pm on
    July 15, 2009

    it’s a woman that chooses her man not the other way around

     


  • kmuzu
    4:46 pm on
    July 15, 2009

    This book has changed my life. I am now a complete man … with a mustache

     


  • Dave
    8:23 pm on
    July 15, 2009

    This is something Frank Zappa would have done to bad music.

     


  • DM
    8:28 pm on
    July 15, 2009

    I think I taste some vomit.

     


  • Hugh Askew
    8:47 pm on
    July 15, 2009

    Most probubbly the mostest awesome thing ever, ever, written. Except Charlottes Web, of course. And maybe that one with the guy that was sick all the time and then he died, except he really wasn’t dead, just only confused. I liked that one a lot.
    Do we get new books here everyday? Do some of them have plots and hyperbole and rhymes? Those ones are good to have. They should write one about how Mikael Jackson an Amy Whinehouse got married in secret and now she is carrying his babies – because most likely she will have triplets at least. That would be the most fun!

     


  • Lauren
    7:40 am on
    July 16, 2009

    I can’t tell if you are trying to sarcastically point out the highlights of this book or if you are being serious.
    This book is terrible. It is basically just listing a bunch of excuses in “romantic” ways.

     


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  • Sam Golden
    9:28 am on
    July 16, 2009

    wow crazy, not sure if you can say ‘don’t be mad at me for forgetting your birthday’ though hahaha

     


  • sweta khandelwal
    9:42 am on
    July 16, 2009

    Evebody has the right to depict one’s thought…But one’s shldnt take anybody for granted..How are a wrong approach
    towards life is acceptable..You will remain alone and the person in yur life will never forgive herself for loving you..Imagine loving smobody becomes a mistake in life..Is the
    life becomes worth..think over it

     


  • Brooke
    9:44 am on
    July 16, 2009

    I was waiting for the punch line and distracted by the dudes wardrobe! My God man!

     


  • Ross Bead
    9:45 am on
    July 16, 2009

    I think the seemingly sincere comments after the book on this page are the funniest little things, not that I love the points on hypocrisy any less… always remember that… we all need to grow if we are to hold each other?s love… remember that… and, please, when you’re posting comments, don’t ever think about someone else…


     


  • Sarah B
    12:02 pm on
    July 16, 2009

    It was all good and fluffylike until I read the bits about how “ok” it should be to forget your lovers BIRTHDAY/ANNIVERSARY and how his love can’t be promised forever. Kinda spoiled all the other cute anecdotes.

    Mustache toting Tosser.

     


  • Ktulu
    12:51 pm on
    July 16, 2009

    eClaironess said “Someone who does not remember special days may think that no day is special as well.”

    …these people are called Jahova’s Witnesses.

     


  • Sgt. Friday
    9:52 pm on
    July 16, 2009

    Why are you so certain it’s written from the guy’s point of view?

     


  • blueelm
    9:53 pm on
    July 16, 2009

    wow. A hypocritical narcissist. I really love how he manages to tell her not to worry about anyone coming between them while also telling her not to think about anyone else. If I ever received an instruction manual to a man’s “ideal relationship” I would run like hell. I hope this woman shared each of her tomorrows with less of a douchebag… like a string of perfect pearls.

    Love is leaf-like, etc.

    However, it is an awesome collection of sweaters.

     


  • blastercast
    10:30 pm on
    July 16, 2009

    I think the “please don’t make me look foolish in front of other people,” sounds more like a woman than a man. If a man says that, it seems kind of asshole-ish, if it’s an acceptable tone to his girl it’s cuz she lets him push her around / be an asshole to her. A woman, however, can say that to a man because it’s usually the man who has to work to get pussy.

     


  • me
    10:55 pm on
    July 16, 2009

    I really liked it, maybe because I’m a girl, but I shed a tear.

     


  • Bob
    10:56 pm on
    July 16, 2009

    I think someone gave me this book back in 197something. It was the beginning of the end, believe me.

     


  • jazz
    11:29 pm on
    July 16, 2009

    Rubbish! Women know this already. They dump you because you persistently refuse to change but you want them to change. Dont do this, dont do that, do this, do that but i love you. Come on, give her a break!

     


  • Troy
    12:24 am on
    July 17, 2009

    Listen, I am a 51 year old married man, and I am sitting at my computer at 1:21am having just read what many would call drivel and I call it perfect, and I am crying. I only wish I could be this forward, this truthful with my wife…

     


  • Casazhou
    2:52 am on
    July 17, 2009

    Hey, i love it so much.
    I’m waiting for someone who ganna to practice is with me!

     


  • Anne
    10:46 am on
    July 17, 2009

    If you’re having to tell some one not to value what they do and not to feel what they do then they are not the right person for you and you should just recognize that.

    If you get married to some one who values anniversaries it is unfair of YOU to expect them to stop doing so because you don’t. I think the weight falls on the person who cares less. I married a man who deeply values these things and I can’t imagine telling him not to care because it’s not such a big deal to me. Instead I ask him to remind me because I’m forgetful of the dates, but I’m happy to make time for them because they’re important to him. It’s called compromise.

    The guy in this book is an asshat.

     


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  • Grismar
    6:56 am on
    July 19, 2009

    Two things: It seems to me this could have been one of a pair, this one being the “Him to Her”. Of course, it could just be that emancipation hadn’t quite reached this publisher…

    Secondly, this type of publication serves to split any crowd in two: one half that ridicules it and thinks themselves better than the people it concerns. And on the other: people who have actually been in a relationship for more than a few years. Who recognize that thousands of years of civilization have done little to change our basic lives and that, whenever someone writes about it, it’s still all the same.

     


  • Tiesha
    2:41 pm on
    July 19, 2009

    Ok so I totally agree with just about everything in this book but I also feel that if it fell into the wrong hands it would just be a good scapegoat for a guy to get away with things he knows he shouldn’t. I’m not asking a guy to promise me he will always be there but I am asking that he tries his best to do all he can to be there forever and not only that but to want to. I agree that no one is perfect and things will be forgotten and things will be down wrong but its about the effort. I think the author of this put forth the effort by putting this in print and sharing his feeling with his SO but again given to the wrong person it could just be an excuse.

     

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  • sianz
    10:59 pm on
    July 20, 2009

    How many of you people who said negative of this are actually (really) happily married?

     


  • maren
    8:53 am on
    July 21, 2009

    wonder if in the day specialness he’s doing the dishes, picking up his own laundry and putting the seat down?

    This free-loving guy seems to be laying down his expectations but I don’t remember him saying anything about what she had a right to expect of him? And I might add, the she doesn’t seem to be any specific female but whoever the generic female of the moment happens to be.

     


  • Jessie
    10:09 am on
    July 22, 2009

    Nice link Thomo!

     


  • Alex
    3:06 pm on
    July 23, 2009

    I missed my wife Meriels birthday once, I didn’t forget, I got the days mixed up, I’m bad with dates and time, I’m not bad about loving her though!

    ” Please don’t promise me” Says it all for me, I don’t love my beautiful life partner Meriel in the past or in memories or on anniversaries, I think about her all the time, every hour every day, in an hour from now I’ll think about her and know that I love her but I might miss a special date, she’s good at dates I’m not.

    When you really love somebdy you accept all the stuff that comes with loving somebody, and accept that both of you will screw up and both of you will feel great making up! Well done Rick! Sorry for the less romantic of you!

     


  • cookie
    11:10 pm on
    July 24, 2009

    For those who are sad because you feel like you’re not so good to your significant other, u can always change. ur in control of urself. aren’t u?

    it’s good to be able to appreciate written goodies like these and take what you can from it. it’s also not a bad thing to criticize things that you disagree with. it lets you stay true to yourself and be who you are.

     


  • ikku
    9:24 am on
    July 25, 2009

    f**k !!
    people r even bothering to comment on this s**t?

     


  • hack
    10:08 am on
    July 27, 2009

    holy crap he’s got a lot requirements. just roll with it dude. typical corvette owner…

     


  • lookatitthisway
    12:19 pm on
    July 28, 2009

    Dad chews Son out because the Son got one B on his report card. The rest were A’s.

    “That one B is going to affect your chances to college!” says the Dad. “You need to try harder! Don’t think you’re not going to college! If you have other plans, you might as well get out of this house right now!”

    Poor Son, he has a lot of Expectations to hold up too. Ironically, he desired to go to college in the beginning but now, he’s not so sure. The end.

    Girlfriend says to Boyfriend….

    If you have been in a long term relationship, I’m sure you can fill out the rest of the story.

     


  • Murchadh
    4:44 pm on
    July 28, 2009

    Seriously, to everyone here who commented; what makes you all so sure it’s the guys sentiments we’re reading. It IS written from the womans perspective. Had to read the drivel again after reading some of the comments just to be sure I hadn’t missed something. Even the guy with the orange marker realised that!

    Wonder what those who consider this guy an asshole would think if it was the girls musings they were reading – and they are. Look at the picture of the dude with the glass (of whatever they drank back then, a nice ’69 I guess) and then read the page again.

    It’s the girls sentiments and thankfully I’ve never dated anyone so twee! Hallmark drivel by the way, and I’m surprised at myself for feeling the need to comment. And,,, the seventies weren’t that bad considering the eighties.

    My two cents anyway!

     


  • faith
    8:30 am on
    August 1, 2009

    l enjoy reading this was awesome

     


  • shellybear
    8:32 am on
    August 1, 2009

    this is both to my partner and from my partner and I feel privaliged to have you share it with us both.

     


  • screamish
    12:07 pm on
    August 2, 2009

    this deserves a frownsmile

     


  • matraiea
    9:15 pm on
    August 4, 2009

    Haha, I found this book in my parent’s basement years ago… I thought it was ridiculously hokey then, and it’s hella funny now that I’ve found it on the internet ;)

    Makes me pleased that I have a tangible copy somewhere :)

     


  • Stefan(ie?)
    1:50 am on
    August 6, 2009

    What makes you all so certain this was written by a man?

     


  • Anonymous
    2:46 am on
    August 9, 2009

    What the **** is wrong with some of you people? Just how emotionally stunted are you? Stop thinking that a relationship without flowers and rainbows and Sunday picnics isn’t worth having.

    Everyone is going to screw up in a relationship. The only difference is that this nifty little book’s (supposed) author admits it.

    What’s so wrong with saying, “I’m gonna mess up, but just know that I have the best of intentions,”?

    Grow up.

     


  • Anonymous
    2:51 am on
    August 9, 2009

    Although I’d admit the Monopoly page is a little strange.

     


  • alli
    10:31 pm on
    August 10, 2009

    I need this book.
    So I looked for it.
    Some used bookstores online sell it for up to $1000
    Thought you should know.

     


  • Freed
    11:06 pm on
    August 17, 2009

    aka Mr. ‘Stache

     


  • coyotemon
    9:44 am on
    August 19, 2009

    This makes me feel lucky. My GF does not need this card. She lives it. Man I’m llucky!!

     


  • Andy
    7:34 pm on
    August 19, 2009

    You left out the Forward by Ron Burgundy

     

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  • ankur
    12:56 am on
    August 23, 2009

    very well written

     


  • Amy Danielson
    12:33 am on
    August 24, 2009

    This is so incredibly codependent and twisted! It made me laugh my ass off, though. Thanks for showing it! And for those of you who think it’s ‘beautiful’ in some other way than just being amazingly funny and abnormal, I feel so sorry for you. Therapy?

     


  • Shyla Harcourt
    7:42 am on
    August 24, 2009

    It hurts me to see how cynical people have become. You women who claim he is self centered and narcissistic probably haven’t had a good relationship in years. Nobody likes to be humiliated in public, especially by loved ones. I forgot my mothers birthday….does that make me a horrible and uncaring daughter? No….I was in school in another province and busy. I called her as soon as I remembered. This is the first time I have ever seen something so touching and truthful coming from a man. Hell….it’s the way I love my boyfriend. One day at a time with hope for more tomorrows.

     


  • Jeepers
    10:30 am on
    August 24, 2009

    We’d been married over 10 years when my husband asked me what color my eyes were. That stung more than forgetting any date ever could.

     


  • Alex
    7:28 pm on
    August 24, 2009

    I feel like roundhouse kicking whoever wrote this shit. I don’t give a f**k whether it is a man or a woman, they have a huge stick lodged up their ass.

     


  • old married woman
    9:22 pm on
    August 28, 2009

    I think that if you don’t like the sentiments expressed here, you’re probably an unrealistic sentimentalist who is doomed to a long string of “unsuccessful” relationships. It may not be what you want to hear, but its reality, and if you want to stay in love for a long time, everything in there was excellent advice.

     


  • em
    4:57 pm on
    August 30, 2009

    If you think that receiving a long list of demands and expectations without any comments that indicate compromise on the speaker’s party’s part is “normal” then I am sorry. You are probably married to a narcissist or are one yourself.

     


  • Jou Baur
    12:48 am on
    September 9, 2009

    If I argue with you, no-one will be able to tell which of us is really the fool.

    I abstain, thank you.

     


  • ZACH
    10:32 am on
    September 10, 2009

    Chill out! Slow down and think for a minute.

    I like it.

     


  • Good day
    10:49 am on
    September 10, 2009

    So you people who hate this book what do you say when you are in a bad mood and you loved one notices? Probably nothing you just make them wonder what is wrong and if its something they did. Right? Instead of what this person when he said it will be the weather or the flu, not because I love you less. He/she is not trying to be mean just making sure the loved one knows that there will be days when the sun doesn’t shine so bright.

     


  • Caillach
    12:50 pm on
    September 12, 2009

    I wonder how many people who didn’t find this cute or loving or at least a little bit true are in unhappy relationships or no relationship at all… Personal experiences and states of mind tend to affect how you read things…

    To me this highlights the fact that in a relationship, no matter how close you are, you are still two different people and you aren’t always going to be perfectly aligned but that you want it understood that despite moments of imperfect alignments the closeness isn’t any less… in fact it may just be more…isn’t being with the whole person the point of being in a good relationship… rather than changing or expecting someone to change themselves to fit you?

    The way I read it this is from either person’s and both persepctives at the same time… if you can both offer all of this to each other chances are you are going to be overall happy… again if not for all time then for the time you do get together.

    And to those fixating on the “don’t make me look foolish/argument” line… you read it differently than I did… how many of you in a relationship enjoy fighting in front of other people? How many of you (females think hard here) haven’t asked your partner at some point to stop doing something that embarasses you… but wouldn’t have a problem with them doing it in private? Some things are personal… what that line says to me is let’s keep our disagreements between us, and keep some things private…. (really awkward explanation… but it might say what I was trying to make it say.)

     


  • Just Me
    2:47 am on
    September 13, 2009

    One thing that isn’t being mentioned, the seventies were very different from the 2000′s.

    If you stumble a lot you might run across a gem from the sixties; it’s a guidebook for the perfect wife.
    A few of it’s points: keep the house spotless, keep the kids quiet, freshen your makeup and always be pretty when he comes home, if he’s late never question him, have dinner waiting and take off his shoes and rub his feet, because he is the man. Plus it states, always remember your place.

    Those times were male centered and people have come a long way, (to use an old cliche).

    As for this book,I see it as an attempt to be sweet, but it comes off as self-centered be it from a guy or a gal. I could see it as romantic and as a guide to live for him, I choose romantic.

     


  • Caze
    3:28 pm on
    September 20, 2009

    Saw this, thought it was great and rang true with a lot of my feelings, not 100%, but a lot.

    sent it to my girlfriend and she said it made her realise a lot. two hours later and I come here and read the comments again..

    I guess I’m just lucky certain people exist who don’t resent this, and I am with one of them.

     


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  • Nancy
    4:41 pm on
    September 26, 2009

    I like Rick’s way of thinking! I find it honest.

     


  • sudip
    2:42 am on
    September 30, 2009

    do u want urs wife be like that if so ok nither there are things to compormise by both

     


  • Lettersalad
    10:37 am on
    October 6, 2009

    Oh, it was the man who wrote it?

    All the time I thought it was the woman.

    Salad

     


  • Nottingham's 'Mr Sex'
    8:08 pm on
    October 7, 2009

    Where’s the missing page that reads “I f*cked them…but I make LOVE to you”?

     


  • Ariana
    9:48 am on
    October 10, 2009

    You know…this may very well be one of the best books in the entire world.

     


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  • astro
    11:23 pm on
    November 2, 2009

    wow.my world did stop in reading this.

     


  • Someone Who was there
    10:23 pm on
    November 16, 2009

    It was a space in time when insensitive men tried to wax sensitive. He just published it.

     


  • Lexi!
    2:59 pm on
    November 27, 2009

    There are thousands of poems, epics, songs and tales about love.
    Love! Love! Love!
    But who knows how to make love stay?
    We praise it’s beauty and wonder, treating it as a blessing and miracle..
    I see it as both wonderful, and disturbing. almost cruel.

    All of us too quick to preach on what love is, how a relationship works. Get off your pedestal. Everyone has been heartbroken at some point. Everyone has made that one mistake, or realized one day they’re love was gone, without rhyme or reason.
    No, I dont think anniversaries, dates, birthdays should influence “how much you love someone”
    Nothing should except for that person. That’s what our epics and poems are about. How stupidly blind love is. How it makes you do bat-sh** crazy things.
    It ignites the passionate fool in all of us.
    Love keeps us in the dark on how it works, because otherwise it would be too easy. where would the passion come from? where would the thoughtfulness of a moment start?
    How do you make love stay? I have absolutely no clue.

    But to all of you who condemn this author for his book, saying it’s a cover for insensitivity…
    Congratulations for buying into what society defines as love. Congratulations on being sheep. Think for yourselves! Find it for yourselves! Don’t go along with what society deems as “love”. That’s an insult to love’s essence. Since when has any of the “true lovers” in literature followed society? Romeo and Juliet anyone?
    Anniversaries, birthdays, special dates makes me obligated to give you a gift. Obligation? Ha thats not love.How about on some idle Tuesday for no reason at all, I’ll surprise my lover just because I was think of them. Money doesn’t buy love, we all know this. whether you’ll admit it or not.
    and Finally who said you had to read the above book? Maybe that is what love is to him.

     


  • BIll
    1:06 am on
    December 1, 2009

    This may be the gayest thing I’ve ever seen

     


  • Admiral Naismith
    10:47 am on
    December 9, 2009

    It would have been much better if they’d used that font that looks like it was written in blood.

     


  • Drew
    4:01 pm on
    December 24, 2009

    I think this might have been the most simplest yet powerful expression of love I’ve ever seen. So many times love gets put in an idealistic sense where too much is expected, but this just felt incredibly real, something I can really relate to

     


  • danielle
    7:41 am on
    December 25, 2009

    i. loved. this.

     


  • kellie
    9:56 pm on
    December 29, 2009

    id really love to find where i can buy this book, can anyone help me out?

     


  • Harold
    7:39 pm on
    January 3, 2010

    If this man were made of chocolate, he’d lick himself to death.

     


  • ANDY
    6:38 pm on
    January 13, 2010

    ITS JUST ONE PERSONS PERPECTIVE ON RELATIONSHIPS.
    ITS AN OPINION. WITH AN OPINION YOU CANT BE WRONG. THE TRICK IS TO FIND SOMEONE THAT FEELS THE SAME WAY.

     


  • Jeff Jinxman
    10:29 pm on
    January 20, 2010

    Every person who thinks this person is horribly selfish, terrible, a douchebag, or anything like that…

    You’re what, 12? Or you’re trapped in a bizarre fantasy world.

    Other than the ‘don’t make me look foolish’ thing, which is kinda… i’m not sure why it’s there, this is amazing. Touching, honest, beautiful… Seriously, get over yourselves and your 12 year old notions of love and relationships.

    I would be willing to bet that almost any loving couple in this world, if they’ve been together for say, 20+ years, would read this and find it absolutely beautiful.

     


  • yahweh
    4:58 am on
    February 8, 2010

    I’m sorry to say this, but most of the people who dislike piece are probably the same people who are either alone and miserable, or taken and miserable. They seem to be along the same lines as all women thought on the topic, the main thought being of course “I am never cold, or distant, or hard to read” because the right man will know how to read you. NEWSFLASH!!! Women are crazy, (you can say complicated if you like, but that implies that men are stupid and simple) men are crazy in our own ways, but women are the hardest kind of crazy to understand. Why do you think that the entire HUMAN RACE, all the way back through time, from before the greeks and continuing now, have made millions of stories, anecdotes, novels, analysis, all saying the SAME THING: Men Should Not Try To Understand A Women. Now I love my girlfriend, but she has her moments of insanity, and I accept that, because its part of her being human. And at the same time, women can not be expected to understand men. Many women believe they have a perfect understanding of men, but look at their track records with open eyes and mind, and you will see that they are often misguided. Women are from Venus and Men are from Mars, so there WILL BE days where I don’t know what is wrong with you, I may have an idea, but I could likely be wrong, and there will be days where you will not know what is wrong with me. So ladies, before you say that you agree with Peter that this guy needs to be booted, remember that in every way that he is openly admitting he is flawed, you need to remember that you are flawed in EXACTLY the same way, and a belief in the opposite is simply a flat out lie to yourself. Humans are humans, and there are very few realities and emotions that we don’t share with each other, no matter how much better or worse we wish to believe we are.

     


  • Korin
    1:05 am on
    February 9, 2010

    I liked it. I thought it was sweet. And I agree with the ‘don’t make my look foolish’ comment. I have a girlfriend whom I love very dearly, and I would never make her look foolish in public because it would embarrass her and hurt her feelings. Why is it so wrong to ask for the same respect in return?

     


  • Brianna
    3:10 pm on
    February 17, 2010

    I think it’s sweet if you look at it from a guy speaking straight from the hip with little skill in sugar-coating. What he says is true, but it taps right into some people’s insecurities. “Don’t promise me forever…”…yeah, that’s just asking for trouble. It may be true, but saying it isn’t going to get you any brownie points.

    More oft than not, you’ll just get into an argument about what certain things “mean” because the insecure woman won’t give the guy the benefit of the doubt.

    If you give the guy the benefit of the doubt, it’s a very sweet piece.

    If you don’t, then he’s a controlling, demanding a-hole whose just trying to give you a head’s up he might not stick around and doesn’t want you to complain when he forgets about the dates you remember about him.

     


  • Alex Ludd
    5:58 pm on
    February 18, 2010

    Please don’t be upset if you can’t reach me on holidays, and don’t let it concern you that I never give you my home phone number, but only my cell. Absolutely, don’t let worries set in just because you only have my P.O. Box address, and not my street number. If you love me, you’ll see the sense in keeping this distance, and you won’t start suspecting I’m married or something.

    Please never deny me sex, just because I refuse a commitment. Relationship is about satisfying me, not about growing together. The fact that I enjoy banging you is proof enough of my love.

    Please be ready to accept that, although I refuse to be humiliated, if I humiliate you it is part of your growth. I only criticize you because I love you.

    Please, don’t ever think I’m in it for the long haul. It will be much more fun and innocent if you understand from the outset that I’m going to discard you when I get bored. That way you will know that I love you.

     

  • [...] Brittany Rotating Corpse found a gem of a Hallmark book-card. It’s from the 70’s, a fact that becomes obvious both by the cheesy mustache and the thoughts expressed. It’s title? Please Don’t Promise Me Forever. [...]

     


  • Bo
    12:41 am on
    February 20, 2010

    I think I just got rick roll’d.

     


  • urban art
    2:37 pm on
    February 26, 2010

    this rules, i want his hair.

     


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    2:31 pm on
    March 5, 2010

    Very interesting viewing.

     


  • alem
    11:12 am on
    March 17, 2010

    what a beautiful……….

     


  • Fraction of one
    4:47 pm on
    March 17, 2010

    Puts me in mind of that great (conceited) 70s hit by Paul Anka, ‘Having my baby’…….

     


  • usually_easygoing
    9:08 pm on
    March 17, 2010

    My boyfriend/husband(?)/person says the same things to me regularly, and tells me not to expect so much – because that would be unfair!

    He’s also hit me on more than one occasion, has a problem with binge drinking as well as anger, comes from a broken home where Mom says she should have killed herself and him both because she knew they both had “the gene” and Dad is a reclusive pothead… Then he ditches me at 7 months pregnant to go out with friends for the third time this week because it’s St. Patrick’s day and “he’s never done anything for St. Patrick’s day before” (but we’re just adding insult to injury after the whole “he’s hit me” thing…)

    This is the first thing I’ve stumbled since I got home, today.

    Screw the author, man OR woman. And screw anyone who found sweetness in the judgmental statements this d-bag decided looked good in Zapf’s fancy f’g Crown font.

     


  • zombie
    4:10 am on
    April 12, 2010

    there should be a 2010 counterpart to this entitled please dont be a dum dum

     


  • Ralph
    11:14 am on
    April 16, 2010

    This card is appropriate for the first three years of marriage. After the kids arrive, forget it.

    First of all, this is tailored for women who are over-emotional. This is for the woman who focused more on having the ‘perfect’ wedding more than having a working marriage.

    That is why 3 out of 5 marriages end in divorce.

     


  • delilah
    2:07 pm on
    April 16, 2010

    aaaaannd i’m crying.
    jesus. how incredibly perfect.

     


  • Jon
    12:41 am on
    April 17, 2010

    I actually think the message in this little book is pretty realistic and helpful… I find it a little odd that people have a problem with it or are making fun of it. Kind of refreshing, actually. Real relationships involve people with moments of insensitivity or forgetfulness, and this points out that the relationship goes above and beyond those moments of insecurity or moodiness and keeps the larger perspective in mind. Well done. Too bad it’s out of print.

     


  • Tom Sawyer
    12:48 am on
    April 17, 2010

    obviously you guys don’t know about “differentiation” and being yourself while being connect… read “Passionate Marriage”

     


  • Julie
    12:51 pm on
    April 17, 2010

    just think about it. many people are saying that he shouldnt forget a birthday or anniversary. when i have forgotten my own birthday once or twice. we all have our flaws. thats just one of the many

     


  • Richard A.
    2:55 pm on
    April 19, 2010

    It’s very true, It’s the approach I advise and try to live by. Have not always and wish I had. On bad days this is difficult to still see in your mind, but remember it and good days will be there as well and you will remember why we are so much stonger for having shared this philosophy in our relationship day to day with your greatest connections!

     


  • Triinu
    12:36 pm on
    April 21, 2010

    This is amazing. I have read it like 10 times. Over and over again.
    Love is pure and so wonderful.
    Thank you !
    Greetings from Estonia.

     

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  • JAhm
    4:25 am on
    April 25, 2010

    I find it interesting that out of the 163 comments on here, no one has pointed out that he is being manipulative and using strategies of ABUSE to excuse his behavior. All of his actions are HIS CHOICE, and NOT HER FAULT. I hope she got out of that relationship in a hurry!

     


  • Bob
    11:34 am on
    May 13, 2010

    I find it interesting that you counted the comments.

     


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  • Throckmorton Jones
    2:37 am on
    June 7, 2010

    The sappy little lovebird in me would love to receive something that says all this. Oh wait, I already did from my equally sometimes sappy, incredibly love able boyfriend. :) Pictures in this are way outdated, but its a sweet concept. :)

     


  • Spud
    4:21 am on
    June 7, 2010

    Anyone have a vomit bag? Both these people need a reality check. They deserve each other. They are equally manipulative and dependent.

    They are probably now both alcoholics.

     


  • danny
    6:22 am on
    June 7, 2010

    What a sack of crap

     


  • B-jangles
    11:46 am on
    June 8, 2010

    We see ourselves in this, be ourselves selfish narcissists or be we imperfect lovers.

     


  • Danielle
    4:13 pm on
    June 8, 2010

    I think the problem is not what he is saying, it’s how he’s saying it, and that’s why everyone’s disagreeing. On the surface, this book is all about opening up and being honest and realistic with each other, which I think is pretty nice. But underneath that, is this guy’s tone, which is ugly. He says “please do this, please don’t do that” but his tone doesn’t sound anything like a request, it sounds like an instruction or order. Orders are not romantic. Also, the biggest problem- he’s not sorry. His tone is, “I will inevitably do these things that I realize upset you, but you should accept them anyway, because that’s what you’ll do if you love me.” When he should be confessing and apologetic, he’s putting the burden of what he does on HER. ALSO, not sexy. Admissions of faults never start with, “please don’t.” And he comes off false and manipulative, which I can only assume is what he is.

     


  • zaro
    10:08 pm on
    June 8, 2010

    they should make a new edition, with the old alcoholic couple, playing monopoly and shit… that’d be awesome!!! o_O

    not.

     


  • Ls
    11:15 pm on
    June 14, 2010

    “And please, don’t ever expect me to put up with your 70s porn star mustache.”

     


  • Ls
    11:21 pm on
    June 14, 2010

    It’s funny, i read most of this as if it was coming from a woman, and it didn’t sound all manipulative as people are saying. I especially related to the “i may be cold, thoughtless, etc”. (oh pms!)

     


  • ghia
    12:24 am on
    June 15, 2010

    love it!

     


  • bailey vicious
    3:05 am on
    June 15, 2010

    i cannot tell if this book makes me feel good…or sad for the person that wrote it. im stuck between he being irrevocably in love with her or him being a complete selfish, self-conscious, lonely man.

    it was beautiful and full of self-pity. it read like it was a book trying to convince someone to ignore the shitty things they’ve done but to take in the smaller insignificant things in life. gahh. im torn.

     


  • Isychia
    5:50 am on
    June 15, 2010

    What a strange little tome.

    Some of the remarks here are so scathing – its fascinating to see how such simple words can be interpreted in such different ways. One point no one has made is that this was his employment – Hallmark may have guided his work more than we know, they have after all become one of the largest distributors of deforestation in the world! Do you think all those greetings card writers feel what they write?

    I think the comments here show more about human emotions and feelings than the book itself!

    I have always wondered at people’s idea of ‘forever’ though – it really isn’t a thing anyone can promise – we simply don’t know what the future holds we can only make a presently informed prediction. Do you think ‘I predict I will love you in the future but this can only based on a % reduction in insensitive public outbursts over board games’ would have worked as well? ;)

     


  • BlueGreen
    8:08 am on
    June 15, 2010

    I’m not a cynic and I am in a successful relationship.
    A lot of stuff he says need not be said between compatible couples.But sometimes its nice to read some mush coming from him to feel a few butterflies that were long forgotten.

    BUT….

    Please don’t mind me if I bite your head off for being cold and thoughtless cos you gave me the flu too (and I have PMS)
    Please understand that I will be seriously P.O ed you forgot my birthday considering it’s a week after yours.

     


  • Sb
    8:43 am on
    June 15, 2010

    Stop posting. Let the book speak. Listen.

     


  • Travis
    11:12 am on
    June 15, 2010

    Im currently remaking this right now for my GF

     


  • NatashaRain
    1:00 pm on
    June 15, 2010

    I don’t know about this…makes me think about a lot of things.
    there’s no true, definite answer to what is right and what is wrong.
    opinions are opinions, simple as that.
    stop making such a big deal out of this, everyone. okay?
    settle down. :)
    think what you want to think. don’t let any one else’s point of view let you sway from that.

     


  • naw
    1:18 pm on
    June 15, 2010

    These sound like the words of a woman about to cheat. I don’t trust them at all.

     


  • Rick
    2:19 pm on
    June 15, 2010

    Call me crazy but I think most of it is pretty good, given that it works both ways equally. Kinda healthy and realistic. Just sayin’.

     


  • c.p
    2:36 pm on
    June 15, 2010

    This is the most beautiful book i have ever read about relationships. It touched my heart.

    whoever wrote this has a heart of love and joy :)

     


  • Bill in Detroit
    4:54 pm on
    June 15, 2010

    With the possible exception of when a train is barreling down on you, never, ever, correct your mate in public. What mistake could be worth your marriage?

    If it’s important enough, deal with it privately.

     


  • the dude
    7:31 pm on
    June 15, 2010

    Who tucks their shirt in at the beach…yeah what a douche

     


  • Daniel
    9:21 pm on
    June 15, 2010

    Well, I do disagree with parts of this book; I think that birthdays and anniversaries should be remembered. But, there are some things in here that do make sense. When he says that he doesn’t want her to embarrass him doesn’t mean not to poke fun,; if you read the further sentiment he means he doesn’t want to have argument in front of company. When he says he doesn’t want her to think about bumps in the road doesn’t mean he doesn’t want to be with her; he just means he wants to enjoy the time they have together. I feel the same way with my girlfriend, I want to spend a long time (a life time if possible) but I think we are too young to consider marriage. But I think that if we build our relationship brick by brick that eventually we will have made a home for the two of our hearts. I don’t believe you can plan a life time in a month or a year or even five years; it is all one day at a time.

     


  • lekha
    11:35 pm on
    June 15, 2010

    i’m going through a break up phase..i have lump in my throat i want to say so many things i didnt say at when i had the right time with me. this article is the bestest ever..it makes me go awww…

     


  • CJ
    11:58 pm on
    June 15, 2010

    As far as the book goes I have mixed feelings, But concerning the guys that are dumping on the writer – They are more than likely the guys who treat the women in their life like garbage and the woman poster who agree with these guys are probably the ones who stand in the front yards with their face beaten to pulp shouting at the cops, “Don’t take him to jail I Love him!”

     


  • anonymous
    3:03 pm on
    June 16, 2010

    This is a great guy. He’s being honest and real, this is how you handle a relationship. A great book, I wish I had thought of that before seeing it. The best relationships are kept realistic. Some people think it’s all about you or all about them, but it’s not. You have to keep things equal and fair, but always have fun. This guy is not a douche at all, and if you think he is, you are the douche, and you probably can’t hold a relationship either.

     


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  • moonfaerie
    7:49 pm on
    June 17, 2010

    this book is a GEM. i want a copy! :(

    you can say that i have been somewhat disillusioned by love, but this one put me right back on track.

    the one who wrote this is not a douche. those who think so are probably in the habit of making empty promises to their partners or think they’re way too perfect. get over yourselves a**holes.

     


  • Pam
    8:21 pm on
    June 18, 2010

    This is really heart melting. I love this.

     


  • Mukul
    4:33 am on
    June 23, 2010

    Heyy!!!wonderful concept!
    wonderful writing!!!!
    all the small things put together make it one big success

     


  • Julia
    9:12 am on
    June 29, 2010

    True Love, right here in this book.

     


  • Harley
    4:28 am on
    July 4, 2010

    I’m so sending this to my girlfriend. Although there are some parts I disagree with, it was beautifully written and I loved it.

     


  • jerlyn
    9:38 pm on
    August 13, 2010

    i really love it,., even if i read it again and again i will not get tired,.
    i love this book ., it reminds me to stay faithful to my special someone,.
    i love,., it to share to all my friends.,
    i much more love it.,. if there someone will do same to me,.

     


  • tim
    9:31 pm on
    September 17, 2010

    It’s the underlining that so touches me.

     


  • me
    6:54 am on
    October 3, 2010

    wow
    i kan understand to each his or her own opinion
    but i mean
    this is as far as we kno a sincere gift for his wife
    such kind words might be the words of a cheater but sometimes you just have to take something for what it is
    the part about being kold
    hes being honest with her about how people will be he isnt kreating a dream world for her to live in
    just as you have your moments of being upset or angered to your love ones he has his and im sure his wife is the same
    if a birthday or anniversery is forgotten while those are important days he is explaining to her that one day isnt necessary to show how special the other person is when to him every day is special and kant be celebrated in just on just a few dates

     


  • Ricardo
    2:42 pm on
    October 28, 2010

    This is really nice and beautiful. If somebody doesn’t have a click! with this photo album art, don’t post stupid things. All people are different in its own way.

    Bless

     


  • Ben
    12:20 pm on
    February 10, 2011

    Wow, I can’t believe all the inconsiderate people assuming that this guy has no care for his girl. You’re all terrible people who fail to look through this piece for what it is. Yes, he said there will be days when he might be an ass. Everybody has those days. Relationships get in fights sometimes. You don’t break it off with the one you love just because he was an ass one day. Shit happens, outside things can lead to bad moods, you can’t always expect people to be perfect all the time. This speaks to me pretty deeply. It has things most relationships need. Give the other person space, don’t make promises you can’t keep, and love each other always. Forgetting a birthday isn’t cause for a freak out. Sure it might hurt, but you move on. You people that think this is terrible and the guy really doesn’t love her need to stop living in a fantasy world. Not every guy is your Edward Cullen. We aren’t perfect. We do things that you may hate. We may get mad sometimes. But if we say we love you, it’s probably true. And when we tell you we’re there for you, well, I know I wouldn’t lie. Just because the man isn’t perfect and not afraid to admit it to the person he loves does not mean that he loves her less and is self centered. If you can’t realize that, then you need to stop living in a fantasy world.

     


  • Inane
    5:01 pm on
    February 10, 2011

    this is bullshit
    and gay not to mention

     


  • Al
    8:27 am on
    February 14, 2011

    Personally, I found it a delightful read. It is EXACTLY how I handle my relationships. I always told my ex-wife that I loved her more today than I did yesterday, as well. I, for one, appreciate this. And, to those who find it “bullshit”, et al, pull your heads out of your collective asses. Why ridicule a man for being honest. If he were a womanizing oaf, would he be showered with accolades?

     


  • ibrahim mansour
    1:40 am on
    February 20, 2011

    The modern fairy tale ending is the reverse of the traditional one: A woman does not wait for Prince Charming to bring her happiness; she lives happily ever after only by refusing to wait for him — or by actually rejecting him. It is those who persist in hoping for a Prince Charming who are setting themselves up for disillusionment and unhappiness.

     


  • Anonymous
    10:08 pm on
    March 1, 2011

    Oh my goodness this just made my life! I stumbled upon it and realized that the guy model is my uncle! Kind of disturbing to see him with the 70s porn star mustache, but I still laughed my butt off!

     


  • Jeeem
    5:13 am on
    March 3, 2011

    I think I’m going to puke….

     


  • DV
    6:09 pm on
    March 3, 2011

    satire 101. HELLO.

     


  • rmw26
    7:16 pm on
    March 3, 2011

    SSSSWWWWWEEEEEEET!

     


  • Susan
    5:20 am on
    March 4, 2011

    What a bunch of b.s. Treacly condescension.

     


  • fajas colombianas
    8:58 am on
    March 18, 2011

    It should be the other way around.

     


  • nosuch human
    1:01 pm on
    March 27, 2011

    this book retails for $80 on amazon.

     


  • Really
    6:26 am on
    April 6, 2011

    The only thing gayer than this article is Rick.

     


  • Ninja
    2:41 pm on
    April 8, 2011

    Wow. That’s 10 minutes of my life I will never get back.

     


  • stumbler
    7:31 pm on
    April 19, 2011

    I don’t see why this is negative. It is honest. People mess up, make mistakes, forget dates, say things they don’t mean, snap from stress, and generally have many faults. The best relationships happen when both people have a true understanding of these faults.
    I will be “celebrating” my anniversary tomorrow by spending the day in the library studying for my finals with my boyfriend. There will be no roses, candlelit dinners, or romantic hotel suites. Just books, notes, maybe a reassuring shoulder massage, and knowing that he loves me enough to sit inside all day with me when he does not have to. And I love him more than anything for that.

     


  • Jaco
    3:33 am on
    May 6, 2011

    This is just what I needed.

     


  • hah
    4:45 am on
    May 6, 2011

    I thought that was lame… There’s just something wrong with that.. . This Rick man is self-centered and manipulative

     


  • curtis
    7:22 am on
    May 6, 2011

    Seriously, don’t be so simple to not realize what is said. It’s obviously a personal message, most likely what she needed to hear. Women don’t know it, and a lot of men are too cowardly to act, but a woman needs to be reminded of these things. I find this man very wise and intelligent.

     


  • nobby
    7:40 pm on
    May 7, 2011

    I don’t understand why this is interesting.

    I think his sentiments are valid and applicable. And if written from a woman to me, would provoke the exact same reaction as if it was from a man, so this is not a misogynistic comment.

    The book is neither well written enough to be interesting, nor the content nearly outrageous enough to be appalled at. Perhaps you would look at the oxymoronic phrase “bitter sweet” and laugh your heads off too if it was dressed in fashion from another era.

    Guys. Remove your head from your anuses.

     


  • Hillary
    10:27 pm on
    May 8, 2011

    I think this short piece of work is beautiful. It describes the relationship between my boyfriend and I to perfection. I would love to get my hands on a copy of this. If anyone knows a way that I could, please let me know.

     


  • glitterfiend
    10:45 pm on
    May 10, 2011

    I just got out of a relationship in which there was a lot of big talk about the future and forever and growing old together, and honestly I wish their hadn’t been. If you avoid making such lofty promises, it doesn’t mean you’re unstable or can’t commit. It just means you recognize the youth of the relationship and don’t want to stifle it. I really don’t think there’s anything terrible about that part. The one part that rubbed me the wrong way was the “don’t make me look foolish” part, but other than that I think yall need to lighten up! Jeez!

     


  • Jonela
    9:49 am on
    May 14, 2011

    Really, I have to thank you for sharing this and you sure are very lucky for having this book. I kinda have problems with my someone right now and it’s just amazing that I stumbled upon this. This really hit me. I know this little lines can make our relationship way way better. Im inlove with this book. Really. :)

     


  • Sophia
    12:26 pm on
    May 14, 2011

    I fell in love with this.

     


  • deokie
    7:57 am on
    May 17, 2011

    this guy has narcissistic personality disorder, don’t fall for it bittie!!!!

     


  • Evan
    5:05 am on
    May 27, 2011

    Really Cool stuff dude. I greatly appreciate these are all the things to be considered in real life to avoid most of the divorces in the World

     


  • Fernando
    5:48 pm on
    May 29, 2011

    Well, people thinks that “needing” someone else to keep breathing is romantic. But I think that is just conformity and lack of self love. Instead, if two lovers that do not need to be together still want to be together, then it is a lot more meaningful.
    Also, has nobody been in a family before? It is completely normal to forget dates and to fight. Also I would never put to shame someone I love in public, even if I know that person can take it, won’t say I never did it, but I learned from that how hurtful it is to be made fun by someone you love in front of others.
    And to end my comment, to go up you need to be able to go down; the same way you need to be able to be independent to really share your life with someone else. So Rick is saying that he wants to be with the woman she is, not to create some kind of pitiful dependency between them and little by little forget how awesome they are by themselves.

    Love is like that, and whoever thinks you need to become nothing without your loved one, is meant to suffer his(her) entire life.

     


  • Cory
    1:39 am on
    June 1, 2011

    Hayley, you’re the best girlfriend ever, always remember that. I’m so lucky to have you. I can’t wait to have you in my arms

    xoxoxoxH

     


  • Marilyn
    8:21 am on
    July 12, 2011

    This was beautiful and timeless. We should all take this advice and learn to really love and understand each other. Thank you for sharing. Any chance we can get a pdf of it. I would like to share it with my friends at work.

     


  • Corey
    12:22 pm on
    July 28, 2011

    So, I think this is very dumb. It’s not his/her attempt to be sincere and realistic; it seems like it is a cop-out. And honestly, how hard is it to remember you girlfriend or boyfriend’s birthday? I mean seriously, write it down or something. It honestly seems like whoever wrote this did not want to commit. “Don’t promise me forever?” We don’t know what the future holds, but that doesn’t mean we can’t commit to one another. I actually saw someone say that this book would help against divorce.The only way that would ever be true is that anyone who truly abides by the rubbish in this book would never be able to make a commitment of that magnitude in the first place.

    That said, I laughed a lot at this. So ridiculous.

     


  • Carlos
    11:49 am on
    July 29, 2011

    This was like a kick right now i’m really sad depressed because my girlfriend toll me to give us a time but she really want to be with me the fact is that she is seeing somebody else in i always crying because its soo hard any advice

     

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